We often get back to porn when we get disappointed at something. Our first reaction to disappointment is to watch porn so we get relieved. We break our commitments in this time.
Disappointment motivates to watch porn again.
We all know this, and think sometimes to take action against it, but when another disappointment comes, we break into porn again.
How to deal with it?
To deal with, there are 2 ways
- Don’t get disappointed.
- Don’t watch porn when get disappointed.
Both are tough, and you cannot choose only one strategy, you have to combine both.
Take first one, as human beings, we get disappointed, it’s a natural phenomenon, we get disappointed, it’s human thing, but when one get more competent in life skills, one learns to reduce disappointments. Or one learns to deal with disappointments in such a way that he get disappointed rarely than usual. There are ways to reduce our disappointments. One has to learn it, when one become emotionally intelligent and competent, lesser things can create disappointment in him
How to achieve such kind of emotional mastery so lesser and lesser things create disappointments? There are methods. I’ll tell you the ways I practice in later posts.
Now take the second thing, don’t watch porn when you get disappointed.
This is easier than first one. But still tough, it’ll not easy with your long term developed porn habit. But it’s possible if you care yourself.
Before telling the strategies, I remember you understand the first principle. You must keep respect to the power of porn; this will help you manage yourself well.
You have to find your next best entertainment to porn which makes you happy, something like watching movies, listening to music, posting to forums, tech, computer games… anything which is not porn and makes you happy.
Do this activity whenever you get disappointed. Don’t think much. Just do. So next time when you get disappointed, go to movie, listen to music, and eat good food… do something other than porn which is not the thing you hate. But if disappointment is too strong, you sometimes break into porn. this is OK. But try to do other things and don’t blame yourself if you break into porn.
If you practice this, you find that your porn time reducing, maybe the reduction is 10 minutes, it’s a reduction. Appreciate it, practice consistently; you see a good drop in your porn time. Remember; don’t blame yourself if you break into porn sometimes. It’s OK, put practice this, over time, this tactic will reduce your porn time a lot.
I’ll talk about next things later.
