As I discussed in earlier post, negative thoughts play a vital role to keep us glued with porn. So how do we deal with it?
The solution to deal with negative emotion is easy, but it’s not very easy when you start dealing with it, one has to be extremely alert. And it’s not going to happen quickly. It’s an art, it needs its own time, but if you can deal with your negative emotions and thoughts, you have a quite good competitive edge.
One has to watch the thoughts he is having, To deal effectively with negative emotions, one should know little about the working of brain and a factors of human motivation. Here I’ll discuss one of the reasons of negative thoughts, Its nothing but the ambitions one have, Unfortunately its true, our ambitions counters us.
How desires and ambitions counter us?
What is wrong with desires and ambitions? We all told in childhood about greatness of ambitions, importance of having big desires, about the people with great ambitions, we all even told that ambitions and desires makes a man.
I am not opposing this analogy, it’s true, but only partially true, desires and ambitions are needed to get ahead in life, meet challenges, create success etc… But there are a downside to it, did you observed about what happens when we have big desires and ambitions?
Desires and ambitions create stress in ourselves, and if you are very dedicated to your desires, then anything that goes against your desire make you stressed, and the hard work to attain the desires also make you stressed, and when you get very stressed, from where you get relief?
The people who haven’t developed good and constructive methods to cope stress will have to find some means to get relief from stress, and unfortunately in our society, only few people got constructive coping skills, where the rest go to relieve the stress? They have to find some means to relax themselves. In this situation, porn becomes the perfect partner for them.
Porn is a very easy and affordable way to find happiness, Body produces chemicals when watching porn which can equate to real sex, so one gets extremely happy by the sensations porn provides, and he watches porn until he get his stress relieved, the duration to get the same level of satisfaction increases with time. And one needs better stuff to satisfy oneself every time.
So a person who is very ambitious is more likely to get addicted to porn than a person with fewer ambitions. The person with more desires is more likely to get addicted to porn than a person with average desires.
Remedy – Reduce your ambitions and desires.
Yes. Reduce it, big ambitions and big desires keep a person always stressed, and stress takes one to porn, more porn=more stress, because of the bad effects of porn. So time for porn gets increased day by day, leaving a man totally incompetent than a person with less ambitions.
So reduce ambitions and desires, be very sense full with your desires, it will help you to reduce the time for porn and ultimately help you to lead a better life.
I’ll discuss more strategies to deal with negativity in later posts.
